Why is it hard for us to love ourselves? I love studying how people behave. I observe their facial expressions, even the emojis they use, and their body language. It’s fascinating to see how people communicate online through texts, chats, and social media. Social media often seems like a place where everyone seeks attention and validation. But despite this, many of us struggle with self-love and tend to judge ourselves harshly. The lack of self-love, self-criticism, and even self-hatred are real issues, especially with the growing problem of bullying, which affects us emotionally and spiritually.
But why don’t we notice these issues more? It might be because to truly understand and empathize with others’ pain, we first need to face and deal with our own struggles and insecurities.
A story, your story?
When I was growing up, my school life was filled with comparisons. My parents often praised my older brother for his exceptional grades, and he was considered the “smart” one in the family. On the other hand, I was known as the “athletic” one, and my achievements were often overshadowed by my brother’s academic success. Whenever there was a family gathering, relatives would ask about my brother’s achievements, but rarely did anyone inquire about my sports accomplishments. It made me feel like I wasn’t as valued or appreciated for my own strengths.
Perhaps you’ve experienced similar comparisons or felt like your unique qualities were overlooked in favor of someone else’s accomplishments. It can be challenging to navigate such situations and find your own sense of worth and power.
In times like these, I’ve found comfort and support in using crystals. They’ve helped me reconnect with my strengths, boost my confidence, and embrace my individuality. Crystals can be powerful tools to aid us in finding our inner strength and appreciating our unique qualities, just as they’ve been for me.
Crystals that can help find that self love…
Let’s explore some crystals that can assist in cultivating self-love:
Crystals are like energy boosters that positively influence our own energies. They elevate us energetically, enabling us to connect with higher frequencies of love, joy, encouragement, and support. While crystals cannot cook dinner for us, they make wonderful companions at the dinner table, listening without judgment and offering nothing but love and encouragement.
One powerful crystal for self-love is Chalcopyrite. It helps reduce self-judgment and self-deprecation, instilling a sense of confidence and self-esteem. Pairing Chalcopyrite with Ruby Fuchsite serves as a reminder of your inherent worth, enhancing self-worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence.
Eudialyte is another beneficial crystal when it comes to working on self-issues. It aids in self-forgiveness and releasing judgment of oneself and others by bringing awareness to old patterns that still linger at a deep level. Pairing it with Rose Quartz infuses loving, supportive, and joyous energy.
For emotional balance and learning to love and forgive oneself, Rhodonite is a great choice. It boosts self-confidence and feelings of self-worth. Pair it with Aquamarine, which helps foster tolerance and non-judgment towards oneself.
If you’re seeking empowerment, self-worth, and self-confidence, consider Sunstone for its joyful energy. Labradorite can further enhance these qualities and support those on their journey of self-empowerment and self-confidence.
Unconditional Love
To experience the profound essence of unconditional love, you can pair pink Danburite with pink to lilac crystals. Allow them to remind you of your true nature and that you are an integral part of divine, unconditional love—an affirmation from your highest self.
In addition to Danburite, you may also want to work with other crystals that can fill you with unconditional, divine love, such as:
- Pink Apatite: This crystal is all about love, transcending beyond the physical level and connecting with universal love—a compassionate, forgiving, and selfless energy.
- Pink Calcite: Carrying the energy of divine love, this crystal aids in understanding and embracing the beauty that lies within you. Recognize that you are divine, and believe in yourself.
- Cobaltoan Calcite (Cobaltocalcite): With its sweet energy, this crystal activates and clears the heart chakra, filling you with love and fostering a more accepting, positive outlook. It also helps you recognize and replace negative self-talk with loving inner dialogue.
- Manganocalcite: This crystal transmits the energy of nurturing and self-love, encouraging you to care for yourself with kindness and compassion.
- Morganite: Activating and energizing loving thoughts and actions, this crystal enhances your capacity to give and receive love.
- Prehnite: Embrace self-compassion, self-forgiveness, and self-acceptance with the help of this crystal.
- Rhodochrosite: Another crystal that encourages self-compassion and self-love, supporting you in embracing your true worth.
- Pink Smithsonite: Holding a vibration of unconditional, universal love, this crystal heals the heart and helps in overcoming emotional trauma, such as abuse and abandonment.
Using these crystals, you can immerse yourself in the profound experience of unconditional love and foster a greater sense of self-acceptance and compassion towards yourself.
In Summary
Review these crystal suggestions and choose the ones that resonate with you the most. You can start with just one crystal or create your own combination that feels right for you. The key is to use these crystals as tangible tools to help you recognize and embrace your own divinity.
Keep in mind that crystals are not a cure-all solution, but they can be a valuable part of your journey towards self-discovery. Consider them as a way to rewrite your personal history, letting go of old stories from the past. Release them from your mind like throwing them out the window, burning them, or shredding them. It’s time for a clean slate, free from past limitations.
As a simple yet powerful practice, I encourage you to take a relaxing bubble bath this week. Add a few Rose Quartz crystals to the water or place them around your tub. Hold one of the crystals in your hand as you soak in the water.
Allow yourself to absorb the wonderful energy and repeat a positive mantra such as “I am a good person.” Embrace this affirmation and believe in your own inherent goodness and worth.