In this week’s crystal consultation, our focus is on addressing feelings of anger. It’s important to recognize that anger is not just an emotional reaction; it can have a profound impact on our physical well-being and spiritual harmony as well.
Various triggers, such as disagreements, world events, relationship challenges, and more, can ignite feelings of anger within us. The intensity of anger can vary from mild annoyance to full-blown outbursts. Often, these emotional reactions are rooted in past experiences, represented by old tapes playing in our minds. Unresolved guilt, unacknowledged emotions, criticisms from our earlier years, traumatic events, and other factors can contribute to these reactions.
When we encounter situations that bring up memories and feelings related to these past events, our response is often quick and abrupt.
Reactions
When faced with anger, our reactions can take various forms. We may express it by speaking hatefully or using harsh words, assuming a defensive stance. Venting our frustrations, complaining, and discussing the issue with others can fuel our anger even more. In some cases, anger may escalate to physical actions, which is even more concerning. But perhaps the most harmful are the inner reactions. We internalize the anger, allowing it to simmer within us. We may feel guilty for not reacting strongly enough or not standing up for ourselves.
It’s crucial to recognize that anger, whether expressed outwardly or held in, can have detrimental effects on our physical, emotional, and energetic well-being.
Crystals to cool Anger
Crystals can be powerful allies in cooling and managing anger, helping us find a more balanced and composed state of being. Here are some crystals known for their anger-soothing properties:
- Aragonite: This crystal eases anger by releasing pent-up and explosive emotions that may have been repressed. It aids in understanding the root cause of anger, the triggering situations, and learned reactive behaviors. It can also be beneficial in dealing with criticism.
- Atlantisite: Useful for working with anger and the reactive ego.
- Yellow Apatite: Known for its anger-neutralizing energies.
- Blue Lace Agate: This crystal not only diffuses immediate anger or rage but also helps in acknowledging and confronting underlying issues.
- Chrysocolla or Fuchsite w/Ruby: These crystals help balance emotions and reduce anger.
- Ajoite, Amethyst, Ametrine, Bloodstone, Carnelian: Crystals that aid in eliminating and dissolving reactive anger.
- Blue Kyanite, Vesuvianite/Idocrase, Muscovite: Helpful in dispelling anger.
- Howlite: Known for eliminating stress and rage.
- Lepidolite or Lithium in Quartz: Cooling and easing intense anger.
- Peridot: Eases the intensity of anger and impulsive reactions.
- Mica: Particularly useful for kids (and some adults!) in diminishing anger and temper tantrums.
- Mangano Calcite, Smithsonite, or Stilbite: These crystals gently release and dissolve anger.
- Picture Jasper: Facilitates bringing repressed anger to the surface for processing and release.
- Sugilite: Helpful in eliminating hostility and anger.
Using these crystals in your practices may offer support and aid in fostering a more serene and harmonious emotional state.
Rules to ease anger
We all experience moments of anger, but how we handle them can truly make a difference. When anger arises, whether triggered by an old pattern, a sense of injustice, or a reluctance to take responsibility, I find the following three-step approach to be helpful:
- Step back and BREATHE: Taking a moment to pause and breathe allows me to create space between the emotion and my response. It prevents hasty reactions and gives me the opportunity to regain composure.
- Acknowledge the anger: I make a quick note of the anger I’m experiencing, which helps me later on to delve deeper into the root cause of this emotional reaction. Understanding when and why it first emerged can offer valuable insights.
- Formulate a response: Instead of reacting impulsively, I take time to formulate a thoughtful response. By maintaining a calm demeanor and using gentle words, I can effectively convey my feelings without escalating the situation. It’s surprising how much impact composed communication can have.
By following this three-step rule, I can navigate through moments of anger more constructively and promote healthier interactions with others.